Yesterday’s Absurdity Is Tomorrow’s Mandate

Whether it’s a picnic lunch along the shore, or muffins at the coffee table, you know best what to feed yourself and your children. Shore Leave, original oil painting by Steve Henderson; licensed open edition print at Great Big Canvas.

One of the perks of homeschooling is that the lunches you eat are generally hot, and they don’t taste like anything you remember from public school kitchens of your childhood.

This, and the good memories we made of family time around the table, represented my major thoughts on the matter, that is, until I read about the Canadian woman who sent her children to school/daycare/preschool (public or private, in areas like this they’re all starting to look the same) with what she thought was a good lunch of roast beef, carrots, potatoes, oranges, and milk.

According to the Canadian Food Guidelines, which the school followed, however, the meal was lacking in grains, and the children were given — without the parent’s prior knowledge or consent — Ritz crackers to supplement. As a bonus, the mother was charged $5 per child for this nutritional “service.”

The article goes on to quote the mother, Kirsten Bartkiw, saying that if she had sent the children to school with “microwave Kraft Dinner and a hot dog, a package of fruit twists, a Cheestring, and a juice box,” there would have been no problem.

No surprises here. The daily assault upon our basic rights as parents and human beings is so regular and pervasive that I read something like this and think, “What will tomorrow bring?” What seems absurd yesterday is normal today and mandatory tomorrow.

Deep inside of all of us is the spirit that can’t be quenched. Spirit of the Canyon, original oil painting by Steve Henderson; licensed open edition print at Great Big Canvas.

What is most interesting about this article, however, are the comments beneath it, which range the gamut from outrage to outright compliance, and a whole lot of apathy in between. Like this one:

“. . .if she dislikes the policy so much, she can find another school or she can try to educate and change the policy, but I don’t see a problem with this as long as they didn’t break a religious/dietary restriction that the kids had.”

I love this: it’s your problem lady. Find another school (that doesn’t conform to government policy? Those are increasingly rare); work through the administrative channels (oh, yes, we all know how well that works); don’t fuss — no religious or dietary restrictions were broken (how do you know? And what does it matter — is it the school’s business to be poking around in children’s lunches?)

The primary foundation for an excellent education is the ability, and desire, to read. Provincial Afternoon, original oil painting by Steve Henderson, sold.

What is the school’s business, anyway? The automatic response is, “to educate the children,” but even non-homeschooling people get the idea that this particular goal isn’t being well achieved. And as most people who homeschool know, one of the primary critiques they receive from people outside looking in at them is that their children won’t be “properly socialized,” which, apparently, is something the public school sees as its primary purpose. (See my article, The Properly Socialized Homeschooler.)

Poking through children’s brown bags is a natural continuation of probing through their lives.

But back to those comments. When you live a certain lifestyle — homeschooling, say, or eating healthily, or reading good books — you tend to find like-minded people, and it’s easy, after awhile, to think that most people think the way you do, or at the very least, don’t mind that you think the way you do.

But when you read through a string of comments on a story like this, you get this rude awakening that there are

1) a number of people who don’t value the concept of individual freedom and think that you are a troublemaker when you speak up


2) far too many people who are apathetic, unconcerned, or so overwhelmed about the problem

As a homeschooler, are you unusual? Oh, yes, my friend, and that’s a good thing. She Danced by the Light of the Moon, original oil painting by Steve Henderson; licensed open edition print at Great Big Canvas.

that they don’t want to think about it, much less fight back. “It’s just too much,” they sigh. “Just give in and hope that nothing too bad happens.”

Not you, my friends. By virtue of homeschooling you are standing up, speaking out, and fighting back, even if you’re quiet about it. You’re not only capable of teaching your child how to read and pointing him toward some fine, fine timeless literature, but you can also rummage through the refrigerator and find last night’s soup, serve it with a slice of toast and some apples, and feed your child’s body after a morning of feeding his mind.

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5 Responses

    1. Jana — it shows how absurd the “guidelines” are — and how lucrative for the various businesses that make questionable food that qualifies as being healthy.

      As with anything, consumers need to educate themselves as to what constitutes good food, or unadulterated news, or a well made product, and the more educated they are, the more they will ask questions and seek answers that make sense to them, not cents (and dollars) for others.

  1. Katiehomemaker

    My husband and I homeschool for these very reasons. We are rebels, I suppose, for not recognizing or valuing these “authorities.” I’m glad my Dad showed me all of his life how to think for myself. I do think it makes other people angry or offended, and I would be a liar if I said I don’t care what other people think, but fortunately, you do find like -minded people, which is such a blessing!

    1. Katie — it is an interesting phenomenon that when somebody stands up for himself and does things a certain way, then a number of people around him, attack. It’s not as if his actions were directly affecting others, but the very fact that he’s outside the group, grazing on bushes 50 feet away, really really bothers members of the herd.

      We have experienced this, and seen it, so many times that we figure there is some Law of Something associated with it — the Law of Group Thinking, or something of the sort.

      Your Dad is an example of how important parents, and families, are – we pass on to the next generation our strengths, many of which we have learned from the generation before us. You and your husband, now, are passing on the good things to your children that you have learned in your own life, as well as had passed down to you.

      And yes, it’s good to know you’re not alone, grazing outside the herd! There are a lot of the rest of us out there at well, and we support one another. The best of a beautiful weekend, and Thanksgiving, to you and your precious family. — Carolyn

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